Get Personalized Help
To Heal
Your RELATIONSHIP With Your BPD
LOVED
PERSON From Someone Who Is A Clinical
Psychologist AND Had Suffered From
BPD Himself!

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Do you
feel like you always need to pick
your words very carefully or
otherwise you risk to be accused or
have your words twisted against you
by your BPD loved one?
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Are
you always anxious because you
never know when the next borderline
episode is going to come?
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Does
your BPD dear one suddenly change
from loving to hating you, then back
to loving you? Do you feel like he or she
sees you and relates to you as either
a totally good or a totally
bad person?
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Is
your BPD loved person swinging
between calm and extreme rage in a
split moment? Are you left puzzled
as to what causes these sudden
changes in their mood?
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Do
they manipulate or blackmail you? Do
you feel often that you have nu
winning chances with them?
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Are
you afraid of discussing
relationship issues because you know
from experience that you are going
to accused of being selfish or too
demanding?
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Did
you have situations when one thing
was okay with them one day and the next day
the same thing was totally
unacceptable to them?
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Do you
feel like living in an
emotional rollercoaster because you
never know when the next sudden mood
change is going to happen? Do you feel like
walking on eggshells when your BPD
loved one is around?
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Do you
feel like you need have to live up
to constantly changing standards and
demands and that you never seem to
them to do things right?
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Have
you ever been accused of
saying or doing things that you have
never did or said? Do you feel like
hitting a wall of disbelief when
trying to defend yourself?
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Did
you try to end this relationship and move on with
your life but you stood because you
have been promised that they are
going to change and you are still
waiting for those changes to this
day? Or have you been threatened or
blackmailed in case you left?
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Do you
feel at YOUR wits end?




Life with
a BPD suffering person can be very challenging,
especially when they keep rolling into
unexpected anger bouts in spite all your
efforts to make
things right.
Now, we
both know that your BPD dear person
needs professional help. But you can't
just drag them to a psychologist against
their will. Moreover, many BPD sufferers
simply reject the idea of having issues
that they need to work out for
themselves. To most of them the idea
that it is impossible to always
others being responsible for the
problems and conflicts never occurs to
them. In my experience only a small
number of BPD sufferers are eventually
getting to the conclusion that maybe
they are contributing too to their
problems. This usually happens after a
series of failed relationships and
marriages, after more and more people
rejecting them, or someone they trust
picking their attention. I repeat, these
BPD sufferers are in minority numbers.
Most go through their lives failing to
understand that they are creating most
of the drama, chaos, and conflicts that
they are complaining about.
So what
can you do to defend yourself and
minimize your emotional "damages" if
your BPD dear person is one of those who
would not seek professional help?
First, let
us see the MOST COMMON CHALLENGES
OTHER non-BPDs are dealing with:
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Anxiety;
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Depression;
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(Co)-Dependency;
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Acute
Stress;
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Low
Self-Esteem;
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Low
Confidence;
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Negative Self-Image ;
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Self-Downing;
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Self-Sabotaging Belief Systems;
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Intense Emotional Tension, Irritability,
Frustration, Inner Conflicts;
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In The Relationship They Take The
"Short End Of The Stick" Because
They Don't Know How To Handle
Conflicts;
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They Don't
Know How To Speak Up For Themselves
Or Are Afraid;
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They Don't
Know How To Gain Peoples' Respect;
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They
Feel Afraid Or Don't
Know How To Set Boundaries; Some Are
Afraid To Implement Them.
"It's not what happens to you,
it's how you perceive it that matter."
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Epictetus
This is a
testimonial from a non-BPD client from
Australia that I worked with several
tears ago...
*"Hi
my name is Adel, I'm from
Melbourne, Australia. My
husband of 18 years left me
suddenly 6 months ago now. I
went searching for answers
to why he left me & our
sons, for no real good
reason. He started seeing a
psychologist for depression.
He had always been a moody
person, up & down, always
scared I was going to leave
him and no matter how much I
told him, that I would never
do that because I love him
so much, it always felt like
he never believed me. He
started going weird once he
started going to the
psychologist and started
saying things like his mind
was going numb and that he
couldn't see me in his
future. This freaked me out
and hurt me so much. We were
so close, we did everything
together, I was his
everything. He told me a
secret that held in for 25
years. Then 2 weeks later he
left. He said "its not about
you, it's about me". He hurt
me so much, I wanted to die.
He has blamed me for
everything and has not
acknowledged anything I have
done for him. I read a lot
online, trying to find
answers. Nothing seemed to
explain the lack of empathy,
the lying, the paranoia that
was coming out of his mouth,
the lack of trust, the rages
I've never seen before,
always having a headache, so
many things. Depression
alone didn't have all the
symptoms of how he was
treating me and our sons and
any other mental illness. I
couldn't except he was just
being a bad person. Someone
close to me mentioned BPD,
I'd never heard of it, so I
invested a lot of time on
the internet researching
BPD, it was OMG, this has
been my life with my
husband. I just thought he
was overly sensitive, and
the constant whining about
everybody we knew. His boss,
co-workers, our friends, his
parents, siblings, my
family, my siblings. No body
listening. Still all this
information I had, but
nobody I knew, really
understands where I'm coming
from, they haven't lived my
life. The things that have
come out of his mouth, the
things that he's done. I
came across [...]Michael
Weisz.
I started emailing him, with
so many questions, he
answered as promptly as
possible. We have had
sessions over skype,
everything that I've told
him, he has answered, so
that I can understand, from
the BPD's point of view. He
has spent so many hours
helping me, I am so lucky to
have Michael in my life.
Regards,"
Adel, Melbourne, Australia
*On file |
These are
some of the BENEFITS that you are going
to get if you decide to work with me
personally:
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STOP HURTING by learning how to
see yourself versus your BPD dear
person in a better light REGARDLESS
how they are treating you;
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CLEARING YOUR MIND by learning to
solve problems efficiently and to
the advantage of BOTH OF YOU;
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Learn how to talk, behave, interact,
and be yourself WITHOUT triggering
your BPD dear one;
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Build
your self-esteem and confidence;
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Know
what to do and what to say to convey
that you are on their side and that
they can trust you;
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Be on
top of situations regardless how
irrational or out of hand they may
seem;
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Work out your anxiety, stress,
worry, desperation, shame, guilt,
irritation and frustration;
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Learn
how to communicate with your BPD
dear person the right way and induce
them to admit that they need to work
out their issues.




For
example, one of my non-BPD patients
turned to me to help her bring her BPD
boyfriend back into her life. She knew
that this was out of her personal
control, however the thought that she'll
lose the love of her life made her feel
very low.
As we
began working together, we identified
several thinking and emotional patterns
that had been triggered by
her boyfriend.
Then, as we
had searched in her past, we discovered
that her desperate need to bring her
boyfriend back was rooted in a number of
unconscious attitudes that she has
learned about herself when she was
young. Those
attitudes were "implanted" in her
subconscious mind by her mother who was
very harsh with her when she used to put on
attractive outfits.
I
explained her that wearing clothes that
are highlighting her physical advantages in a
tasteful way is not bad or immoral. That
was her mother's perception.
Her mother
rejected her for wearing those outfits.
Then in collision with other negative
life experiences she has eventually started
believing that she is never going to get the most
important things that she wants in life.
So,
getting back to her boyfriend, who by
the way was quite difficult to live with
because of his BPD symptoms and
reactions, she saw his loss as
the confirmation of her belief system
which said that
"I will never get what I want in
life."
As we
had identified and restructured other
self-deprecating belief systems and
attitudes, she eventually began to exert
her rights and needs in more confident
and assertive ways. She was positively
surprised about herself when she began
having the courage to step up for
herself, whereas before she rarely had
the guts to do it.
This is
just a short example of how I work and
how my non-BPD patients learn to handle
their problems .
"Okay, I
like what I read here and I want to work
with you Michael to improve my relationship and
my life!"
This is
what you need to do next:
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Click
the Order button below and complete
the SECURE payment process;
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You
will immediately get an email confirming that
your payment was processed
successfully;
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In the
next 24 hours I will send you and
email with all the necessary details
for the first session, including the
date, time, and the legal agreement
(see model
here).

During the
first session we are going to start
building the therapeutic relationship
which will be based on trust, support,
non-judgmental and empathic
COLLABORATION.
We will
work together as a TEAM to
identify the problems you are struggling
with, we will find solutions together, and
will find practical
ways to implement them into your
relationship and your life.
For
example, in connection with your BPD
loved one you will learn how borderline
personality develops, what its
causes are, what your exact situation is
within the relationship, and what YOUR unmet
needs are. We are going to find
SPECIFIC SOLUTIONS FOR YOU! We are going to evaluate the
relationship and identify ways to
improve it while fulfilling your and your loved one's needs!
When we
identify a problem, first I always
evaluate whether the problem at hand
arises in only one type of situations or
experiences, or in several others too
over longer periods of time. This way I
CAN CLARIFY whether the problem is "singular" or
it is "general".
"Singular" problems need "singular"
solutions, while "general" problems need
"general" solutions.
For
example, let us say that a "singular"
anxiety is triggered by a "singular" or
"specific" situation or experience, like
one kind of thing that your BPD dear one
says or does. The cause of YOUR anxiety can be
YOUR black and white thinking style. In
this case the solution to the problem
stands in making this thinking style
more flexible, help you make it see the "grey" areas in between
too.
On the
other hand, if anxiety is a symptom of a
more "general" cause, like it usually is the case in
depression and personality disorders,
in the counseling sessions we are going
to focus on the deeper aspects of your
personality, like your values,
perceptions, and thinking patterns.
Working these out eliminate depression,
anger, hopelessness, desperation, and
low self-esteem.



So, TAKE control over your
relationship and life BACK!
90 Minutes
Session ONLY
$100 (that is
ONLY $67/60
minutes!)
Then send
me an email at
Michael@NonBPDSolution.com to set
the date and time for YOUR FIRST
SESSION!

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